The wedding preparations are underway, the budgeting was a nightmare, the cake is much more expensive than expected and anyway and anyway. “At least I’ll relax at the bachelor party,” you think, and suddenly you’re faced with a burning question: who’s actually going to pay for the bachelor party? So that you are not alone with this “problem”, we have compiled the most important tips for the financial planning of your bachelor party.
What is going to happen anyway?
Of course, before you ask yourself the question of who will pick up what bill for the bachelor party, you need to know what you want to do in the first place. What all the fun will cost, who all comes along, all these things matter. If you are still not quite sure about this, please feel free to read our tips for organizing a bachelorette party. After all, there are quite a few things to keep in mind.
If you are still looking for activities, you will find various suggestions here – from activities for the bachelor/bachelorette party to the couples ‘ bachelor party 18+ or drinking games, everything is included.
Who organizes the bachelor party?
For bachelor and bachelorette parties, the best man or maid of honor traditionally organizes the bachelor party. Often this happens together with friends of the bride or groom. Celebrate the couple together, the polterabend usually organizes the couple itself or the family (s).
Nevertheless, this does not mean that the respective organizers automatically have to bear all the costs. There are different approaches to who organizes the celebration of leaving singleness.
What really matters here is communication. For example, if you plan to go out for dinner and then have a bar crawl, you can invite the guests to dinner, but then leave the drinks up to each person. Just check with your guests beforehand. Also, keep your guest list in mind when planning your activities: not everyone has a budget that can fund a full day of experiences. And after all, time together is more important than a full to-do list anyway.
Especially for bachelor and bachelorette parties, most groups of friends agree to split the cost. Apps like Splitwise (available for both Android and iOS) can make this process easier. One can enter the different expenses, split them evenly or unevenly, check which amounts are covered and which are still open, and so on and so forth.
Especially if you want to organize a party for the bride or groom as a group and not everyone can contribute the same amount, Splitwise (or of course any other app of this kind) really pays off. The factor of “running behind” to get everything together is simplified immensely. The same goes for the traditional approach, of course – it’s not like a couples’ bachelorette party can’t hold surprises.
Common cash register
Another not uncommon approach is to simply throw it together. Whoever wants to participate is invited to add something to the common budget (if you like it romantic, you can let a little piggy bank* do the rounds) and with that we will organize.
This pays off especially when there is no fixed list of activities with reservations, but a spontaneous collection of damp-happy craziness (aka bar tour or home party).
And who pays now at the bachelor party?
Let’s face it – rules are many, people even more. Who pays at the bachelor party is not so much a question of various long-established laws, but one of pragmatism. If you’ve just won the lottery and want to treat yourself to a luxurious bachelor party, but you’re desperate to have your best friend from college, whose garage band never quite made it, join you, you’ll either have to dig deeper into your own pocket or scale down your list of activities.
The rule is: think about how much you (the organizers) are willing to invest yourself, ask yourself who is on your guest list and communicate your wishes – after all, the whole thing is still a joyous occasion, not a deadly serious tax audit.
We hope that our tips can help you with the planning and wish you a lot of fun while celebrating!